Do you find yourself thinking or saying that you ‘aren’t good enough?’ Do you constantly compare yourself unfavourably to others? Then you might have low self confidence. Here are some tips to help you boost the way you feel.
If you find that you answered ‘yes’ to both questions above then you might need to try a new way of thinking. Training your brain to think positively about yourself will help to improve your self confidence. If you have low self confidence this might seem hard, but it’s not. Take some time each day to think about yourself kindly. Acknowledge your achievements. Congratulate yourself for a job well done. Small steps will add up to a big change overall. If you compare yourself to others, cut that out right now! People with low self confidence can describe others lovingly and reserve criticism for themselves. Calling yourself fat, ugly, stupid, incompetent, or saying that you are not good enough, not muscly enough etc does nothing for you. Nothing. At all. Take a moment to ask yourself where these thoughts come from. Did you form these judgements about yourself when you were upset or something bad had just happened? Did someone tell you that you ‘weren’t good enough?’ It might be that the starting point of your low self confidence isn’t your fault, and please remember, confident people don’t put others down…..
Write an ‘I AM’ list
This is one of many great ways to help you to think more positively about yourself and raise your self esteem. Here’s what you need to do - get a piece of paper or start a new note in your phone. Think about all the things that are good and great about you. Write them down, you need to have at least five things in your list. For example, you could have: ‘I am intelligent’, ‘I am a good friend’, ‘I am helpful’, ‘I am determined’, ‘I am successful’, ‘I am confident’ and so on.
Finish it off by writing a positive statement that begins with ‘I AM’. It doesn’t have to be too long, a couple of sentences is fine. Make sure it includes at least five of the things on your ’I AM’ list. If you have written it on paper put it somewhere in your room where you can see it everyday. If you wrote it in your phone, read it everyday. Try to repeat your statement three times every morning before you leave your house, this will help you to believe in yourself and feel more confident throughout the day. Keep practising this until it becomes a habit and you know your statement by heart. Understanding the greatness that is within you will help you to show your greatness in the world around you.